What Do You Really Want In Life?

What Do You Really Want In Life

My partner recently asked me this question, what do you really want in life? I honestly did not have an answer to the question for the first time in my life, I always have an answer about my goals in life but recently with all the changes that are happening in my life, I did not know how to answer the question.

What Do You Really Want In Life

For the first time in my life, I did not know what I really wanted in life. I have noticed that most of my goals were really not about me but it was about proving people around me that I can really be something in life, it was all about other people and not for me. I am a people’s pleaser by nature and that has really blinded me into thinking that having goals that will please other people will also make me happy, that is not true.

What Do You Really Want In Life

I have decided to really do self-introspective about what do I really want in life. I have noticed most of my goals were really not mine, I was living people’s dreams and not my own. I have been told what was I supposed to be in life but it was really never something I wanted. For example, I was told to go to tertiary, graduate, get a good job, be independent, buy your own house, buy your parents a house and then get a man who will marry you. I have noticed that I have lived my life according to that life plan, but it is not really me, I am not happy with it and I am not living to the best potential of myself.

What Do You Really Want In Life

I am at the point now where I am figuring what makes me happy, what do I really want in life, where I set down my principles and values, where I set boundaries in my life. I had to unlearn everything I have been taught about life and figure out what makes me happy. Now I know it’s ok to be a housewife and have kids without a paycheck every month. It’s ok to depend on your partner for financial support and really enjoy to be dependent. I know it’s ok to say no to monthly paycheck an start your own business. I know it’s ok to decide not to feel pressured to get married just because of your age. It is ok to value family and friendship over money. It is ok to have different values than your neighbours. We all in the same game called life, it is up to you how you really want to play it. Others play to win, others play to enjoy and it’s ok, it all about choices and decisions at the end. We have to reach an understanding of ourselves at some point and know that we must live life to the fullest. It is between you and God, who are people to judge.

What Do You Really Want In Life

Next time, if someone asks me “what do you really want in life?” and I don’t know the answer at that time, I will say”I don’t know yet but I am really trying out things that make me happy and I know that will show me what really do I want in life” Its ok not to have all the answers in life. We are here on earth to learn, to rediscover ourselves and also enjoy life not always take it seriously. Right now I enjoy writing and sharing my experiences on my fashion blog.

I hope you enjoy my article and really know it is ok not to know everything. I would like to hear from you about your experiences when it comes to such questions, how do you respond to it and what is your belief about your life goals.


Much Love.


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  1. Tanaka Elsie.|

    That’s something that most of us needed to hear – Its okay not to know everything and its okay to live your own life according to what YOU as a person really want. Thanks for the insight and we look forward to such articles in the future!

    1. Yes Tanaka, it is ok not to know everything, that is how we learn in life.

  2. Indeed you must know what you really want in life. Great message Nomusa.

    1. Thank you Steve. Yes we must really know what is it that we really want in life and it must be something you do it yourself.

      1. It’s true.

      2. How do I go about knowing what I really like in life and differentiate it with living for other people.?

        1. Hi Felistus,

          First, you have to know yourself, found out what makes you happy. Think about yourself first before thinking about others. Firstly you have to make your cup full and overflow and that is when you can help others.

  3. Here you go, such a relavant topic. Most people fail to answer this question. Thanks for bringing it up.

    1. Yes Didier, maybe it’s because we fail to understand ourselves first before anything. Get to know yourself first then answer questions to what you really know.

  4. Alain Adambu|

    Yes, dear, that’s a beautiful article that you’ve brought to us once more.
    For me, I think we should focus on our Final Goal-Setting

    _Think big, don’t stop an idea because it feels impossible right now
    _Never settle for less than what you want, even if you’re not sure you deserve it
    _Go for your own dreams, not someone else’s
    _Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want

    1. Yes Alain we must focus on what we want not on what other people want for us. We have to be truthful to ourselves. Much love.

  5. I used to know what I wanted but as you grow older priorities change.

    Currently most of what I needed I already have really….MY KIDS and they make happy – everything else will fall into place when its time.

    1. This is what I mean when I say we are different and want different things in life, your kids makes you happy and for someone else not having kids makes them happy. That is why it’s important to focus on the things that makes us happy.

  6. Love how you say ‘Its okay to not know everything’. You find people that would say anything just to prove that their lives have some sort of direction. I am currently still trying to find myself but in the same note very content with who I am right now. Nice one. Love the striped dress.

    1. I know. I feel like we learn by not knowing everything. I love that you getting something out of this dear. I hope I keep motivating you to grow spiritually. Much love

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