Meaning: self-acceptance is an individual’s satisfaction or happiness with oneself, and is thought to be necessary for good mental health.
Self-acceptance involves self-understanding, a realistic, albeit subjective, awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses.
As a plus size South African fashion blogger I have learned so many lessons when it comes to self-acceptance. I used to look at my old pictures and compare them with my current body. I have tried different diets and that was because I was at war with the body that I saw every day in the mirror. I didn’t know how to look at myself naked and appreciate what I saw.
I remember looking at my body one day and asking myself “why do I hate you so much? After everything, you have done for me. You have carried me through both, the worst times and also the most joyful times of my life. And yet I still don’t understand why I hate you so much”
I started finding answers to my questions. I didn’t hate my body. I hated every bad experience that I went through in life and I used my body to comfort me through the pain. I abused food to feel better about the bad situations I was experiencing at certain moments.
I had to go through soul searching and do “the work” about self-acceptance and self-love. One thing that helped me through the process of self-acceptance was affirmations. The mirror work. My friend introduced me to a book called “You can heal your life” by Louise Hay. I started reading this book and doing the affirmations and best believe; it was a life-changing experience! Now, I do my affirmations every day in the morning in front of the mirror while I’m preparing for work. I will tell myself every day the following affirmations:
• MY BODY LOVES TO BE HEALTHY.
• EVERY CELL IN MY BODY IS LOVED.
• I BLESS MY FOOD WITH LOVE.
• I KNOW HOW TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF.
• I AM HEALTHIER THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN.
• I AM HEALTHY, HEALED, AND WHOLE.
These affirmations have helped me heal the wounds I was facing for a long time. I have learned self-acceptance and self- love through affirmations.
It does not matter what size you are, you need to love and accept yourself, that’s the best gift you can give to yourself. God needs to use us for his purpose, and that begins with self-acceptance and self-love because God is love.
“I forgive myself for not treating my body well in the past. I was doing the best I could with the understanding and knowledge I had. Now I care enough for myself to nourish myself with all the best that Life has to offer.” – Louise Hay