When you concentrate too much on the future, you end up forgetting to live in the moment. I remember last year (2016) I had so many plans and goals to reach, which is not bad as a young motivated person but I forgot to enjoy the present. I was too focused on the future. One of the best gift you can give yourself is the present moment, experience everything in this moment, whether good or bad. Every moment we are experiencing is where we suppose to be at the time. Do not escape the present.
Living in the past
The past can also hold you back, many of us love living in the past. Meditating things that had happened to us in our past and repeating every bad and hurtful memories in our minds. You cannot live in the past anymore. You have to let go of the past especially when it’s not a good memory. You have to teach your mind to live in the moment. The past has a negative hold on us and sometimes we let things that happened to us years ago to affect our present moments. We bring the hurt, bad experience, anger and mistrust in our current lives. It’s so hard to let it go and let down your guard, it’s so hard to start over again, but what I can assure you from my experience is that it’s all worth it. Let go of the bad experience from the past, learn to forgive, it’s never too late or too early.
Live an authentic life
To live in the present moment also helps you to live an authentic life because you are experiencing every moment, every emotion and every circumstance that you are dealt with at that current moment. Being authentic to yourself also helps you to make decisions wisely, with a clear mind because you aware of what’s going on in your life and you will make decision based on the truth you know.
Tools to train your mind
The are tools that I used to help me train my mind to live in the moment :
- Meditation: be still and know. With all our busy schedules and hectic lifestyle, we never take the time for ourselves just to be in the moment and shut our thoughts down. Learn to quiet your mind. Learn to control your thoughts. It won’t be easy for the first few days but the more you train your mind it’s the more it will get used to listen to what you say to it.
- The other hand tool: this is the tool I learned in therapy, when the past thoughts are trying to take over your life and you feel like you don’t have control over it, I will recommend this tool. Take a pen and paper, use your normal hand to write about what you feel at the moment or ask yourself why you feeling like that at the current moment. With your opposite hand that you normal don’t use to write with, answer all the questions that you asked with your normal hand. Be honest with yourself, you can even draw pictures or whatever that comes to your mind at that moment. Others write poems, lyrics and different materials to help them answer the questions. This tool is good to help address the issues you haven’t dealt with as a child. It helps you to go back to your childhood memories and address the root of the problem that is affecting you in your current life.
- Physical activities: when your thoughts are all over the place and you need to calm them down then physical activities is the way to go. You can jog, do yoga (recommended), play sport or join a gym and do things in groups. I love creating content for fashion blogs and coming up with ideas for my next wardrobe.
- Social lifestyle: not every person can be social and it’s ok. We are different for a reason but if you can once in a while, meet up with new people, old friends and family, take a trip, visit an art museum, attend a fashion show, go to a concert and do things that makes you have fun. This will help you get your mind off things and live in the moment.
Live in the moment and experience everything that life has to offer. I would love to hear your stories about this articles, please don’t forget to share, comment and like.
With care and love: by Nomusa